Relationships can be hard enough, but what about ending a relationship? How can you let it go without hurting the other person? In this episode we discuss what is really going on and how to move on in a way that is best for both of you. Press the play icon above.

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Show Notes

Here is an outline of what you can expect from this podcast episode. Listen to the podcast if you can, as I go into more detail which will help you.

How To Let Go Of People Without Hurting Them

• Today we have a question from a listener. She actually sent in 4 questions, and I asked her to choose one because they are different topics. I asked her to choose the topic that matters most to her right now.
• Her question is about ending a relationship, and how to let go of someone without hurting them.
• This is an important topic because we all go through this at some point, and we handle it has a powerful effect on actually ending the relationship and on the next one we attract.
• I am going to read her letter and then address it part by part.
• I have modified it slightly for clarity, the meaning has not been changed.
• Here we go…

Hi Scott,

Thank you so much for responding.

You are so very clear with conveying your ideas, and they very much resonate with me.

I think the topic of bringing in more money would be the most fun. I am doing pretty well with the others except for the last topic. Ugh. Maybe that’s the one we should talk about. I’m in a 4 year relationship. I’m no longer attracted to him. He’s now retired. Not exercising. Not productive in my opinion.

I’m 7 years younger [and] very active. I work very hard to maintain my home and property. He’s now living with me until he finds a house.  He is not currently actively looking!  Not paying me any money but [he’s] trying to help around house – but not very much.  He has plenty of money and spends at least an hour a day looking at his investment portfolio.

Any insight would be appreciated. In the meantime I will listen again to your podcasts.  It’s helpful to me to reinforce these ideas.

Thank you!
-J

• As you are listening, you may already have feelings about this
• Some of you may feel frustration for her, and others may relate to this same situation
• This is not a healthy situation as it stands
• I’m going to tell you why, and what can be done about it
• Let’s go through this piece by piece

Hi Scott,

Thank you so much for responding.

You are so very clear with conveying your ideas, and they very much resonate with me. 

• Thank you… you are why I am doing this!

I think the topic of bringing in more money would be the most fun. I am doing pretty well with the others except for the last topic.  Ugh.  Maybe that’s the one we should talk about. 

• Since you haven’t seen all of her questions, I’ll state that her last topic is “How to let go of people without hurting them (outgrowing a relationship)”

I’m in a 4 year relationship. I’m no longer attracted to him. He’s now retired. Not exercising. Not productive in my opinion. 

• What are you feeling? I am sensing disappointment, even some frustration.
• You are attracting more of what you are feeling, which is an indication of your point of attraction.

I’m 7 years younger [and] very active. I work very hard to maintain my home and property. He’s now living with me until he finds a house.  He is not currently actively looking!  Not paying me any money but [he’s] trying to help around house – but not very much.  He has plenty of money and spends at least an hour a day looking at his investment portfolio. 

• The law of attraction brings the essence of what you radiate… what you vibrate.
• When you decide you want something, and you believe it, you will begin to see evidence of manifestation quickly.
• Why am I telling you this?
  • Because your ex has not made a decision to find a house – if he did, that house will come to him – and you will see and feel the results in motion.
  • I am also telling you this because you have not made the decision to move on. If you did, he would not be in your house. You may argue that point and tell me that you did make the decision to move on, but I am telling you that you are still in the pondering mode. When a decision is made, the law of attraction will bring you the results.
• Making a true decision can be the hardest part of manifesting deliberately.
• You are allowing him, you are enabling him.
• You are both suffering as a result (yes, him too). 

Any insight would be appreciated. In the meantime I will listen again to your podcasts.  It’s helpful to me to reinforce these ideas.

Thank you! 

• Now here’s the kicker… if you do not end this properly, your vibration will bring to you another relationship just like this one. How many people do you know who complained about their relationship for years, and when they finally break up, they’re complaining about the new relationship too. Different faces, different places, same vibration, same problems. Make sense?
• You have to change your vibration to change the next relationship the law of attraction brings to you.
• You have to find a way to take charge, get happy in your own confidence, and watch the changes take place.
• When you remain in an unhappy relationship with another person, you are only delaying happiness for the both of you.
• And yes, even though you are “broken up”, you are still in this relationship whether you realize it or not.

Your Question

• So to answer your question “how to let go of another person without hurting them” is to focus on your own well-being.
• It is important to understand that you are hurting them more by delaying the inevitable, and by doing so, you are hurting yourself.
• Take care of yourself, get into alignment, and the law of attraction will bring you your desires.
• It is not your responsibility to take care of him, he’s got his own vibration going on.
• When you are powerfully focused on your desire, the law of attraction will remove him from your experience because you will no longer be vibrating on the same frequency as he is.

Questions, Comments?

• Thank you, thank you, thank you for your questions!
• Please keep those questions coming!
• If you have questions or comments, you can post them below or you can contact me using the contact form here
• I appreciate that you are listening!
• If you found this episode helpful, may I ask if you can help out by sharing it? It would mean the world to me. Thank you.

The law of attraction always brings you that which is in harmony with your vibration, even when you are not aware of it. A listener asks how the law of attraction affects a relationship when one partner does not believe in it. This episode digs into this common circumstance, explores the truths, and reveals ways you can manage and control your outcome.

 

Show Notes

Here is an outline of what you can expect from this podcast episode. Listen to the podcast if you can, as I go into more detail which will help you.

Law of Attraction: My Partner Does Not Believe In It

• As we learn about the law of attraction, and learn to apply it, we begin to harness great power that was always there waiting for us
• But what happens if you are in a relationship where your partner does not believe in it?
• Does it matter? If so, how should it be handled?
• I received a letter from Oksana, a listener who has been learning to apply the law of attraction in her life. Her partner does not believe in it, and she wants to know what to do about. It.
• In the live podcast, I read the letter (below) and go into detail regarding each paragraph, thought, comment, and question.
• Please note that the letter below has been slightly edited for clarity only… no meanings or intentions have been altered.
• Let’s do it…

Question on law of attraction and have a partner that doesn’t believe in it

Hi Scott,

Your podcasts have been a tremendous help in clarifying (the) law of attraction in such a unique and simple way! I have had a lot of “aahhhaa” moments just listening to your podcast.

I just started to get into law of attraction and I am up and down on this. One day I will be so positive and the next I am down again. I don’t know if it has to do with my partner not believing in it or not. I want to be stronger in (the) law of attraction and pursue it to the fullest so I can change my life and get what I want, but my partner whom I see and interact with everyday, is not so positive and optimistic as I am.

I can feel how this changes my mood and brings me back down to “square one” and I have to start over. For example: I really want a home (we are in apartments now) and I keep speaking out loud how amazing it will be when we get our home next year (I am believing in that with all my heart) and he shuts down my optimism with “realism” knowing it would be a hard thing to accomplish in his eyes.

My question to you is: Will I be able to manifest my desires having a partner that is influential in a negative way in my life daily? Does he have to believe as well in my dreams since we are “one” and we would be getting the home “together”? Or would I need to separate from him and focus on my own desires. I would LOVE for him to be with me in my journey of a better life.

Thank you for all your help. You can use my name in the podcast, I don’t mind.

• It’s much better to listen to the podcast, but I will try to sum it up here anyway. (you can listen to the podcast by pressing the play button above)
• Summary points…
  • Ups and downs are normal for learning to apply the law of attraction (just like anything else). Repetition is the key for being able to gain deliberate control of your results. After all, you cannot expect to be a great musician without repetitive practice either. This applies to everything, so keep going and don’t get discouraged.
  • The above part has nothing to do with your partner, however his influence can affect your outcome. His vibration is not in harmony with yours (on the subject), and it is your choice to allow that influence. I know that statement may be hard to accept.
  • It is best not to have these conversations with him. Your results will speak for itself.
  • You can always manifest your desires, regardless of your partners point of view. However, it requires that you stay in alignment with yourself and that you avoid (or block out) his negative vibrations of influence.
  • He does not have to believe as well… he creates his own life. Ideally, your positive energy will influence him into a better place whereby he will seek to learn as well.
  • You can manifest anything you want. However, you cannot control the thoughts and manifestations of another, and therefore manifesting what you want out of other people is not possible (but can be influenced). The law of attraction will instead bring you another person that is in alignment. I get that may not be what you want to hear, but the result will be amazing.
  • I am all for relationships working, so I am not suggesting that you part ways. I suggest that you get into alignment, and let the universe handle the details. You will either be brought together or drawn apart based on your respective vibrations.
  • As long as you are in alignment, the end result will be good (remember, you attract what you think about / vibrate, whether you want it or not).
• Listen to the podcast for a better understanding.

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