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TB 58: How To Use The Law Of Attraction For Love

October 31, 2022 By Scott Gilbert Leave a Comment

Once you understand how attraction works on a vibrational level, you can then take the necessary steps by knowing where you are in the process of attracting love. You can then know what to do to make changes that will bring the joy and bliss into your experience. Press the play icon above.

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How To Use The Law Of Attraction For Love

Welcome to the Think Blissful blog and podcast, where we simplify the law of attraction!
Today we are going to discuss how to use the Law of Attraction for love
Note that using the Law of Attraction for love works the same way as for anything else
Yet we will address love specifically and give you an understanding of why you are getting what you are getting in terms of love
We’ll also talk about actionable steps for change
Are you read? Here we go!

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TB 54: Maintaining Balance Around Toxic People

October 30, 2021 By Scott Gilbert 2 Comments

It’s easy to feel helpless being around toxic people, especially when they are part of your family. Today we are going to dive into what’s going on and how you can find your balance. Press the play icon above.

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Maintaining Balance Around Toxic People

Welcome to the Think Blissful blog and podcast, where we simplify the law of attraction!
Today we have a listener who wrote in regarding toxic relationships after listening to episode #45 (TB 45: Toxic Relationships and the Law of Attraction)
Let’s review the letter and get right to it.

Thank you for this podcast. I found it by googling Law of Attraction + toxic relationships. I am in a different situation than Jill, my ‘toxic’ situation has more to do with my family of origin (elderly Dad, bullying older sister).

As I have been grappling with my own situation, I have realised that part of my confusion has been around the messaging of some spiritual teachers, including some LoA ideas that by counteracting ‘negative thoughts’ about others with positive affirmations, we can literally change the energy of our situation. I have had some success with this. At one point, my father was being very critical and rude about the meals I was cooking for him. One day I practised regularly affirming, ‘My father is appreciative and grateful,’ and, to my amazement, that evening he expressed gratitude and appreciation for the meal I had cooked, unprompted.

At the time, I was delighted, because the experience validated my growing belief about how we can influence our reality. Since that time, he has continued to be appreciative and grateful 😊.

However, a few days ago my sister started bullying me (again – this has gone on for many years). I recognised that my mind was running away with negative thoughts/scenarios about her, and decided to set myself the task of praying for her/sending her love for 2 minutes every time I caught myself indulging in negative thoughts. My intention was to train my mind to divert itself from the flow of negative thoughts.

This seemed a great idea at the time… however… I spent almost the entire day praying (!) because there was so much negativity… I wonder if you could comment more on the idea found in certain LoA circles about affirming positive things about people when we find ourselves disliking them?

Increasingly, I feel that the best next step for me is to internally affirm a big fat ‘NO,’ like saying: I am no longer willing to tolerate abuse. I probably should rephrase that to say, ‘I now welcome loving, supportive relationships into my life.’

But, what I am not hearing from spiritual teachers/LoA teachers, is anything about actually taking ACTION in terms of walking away from abusive situations, and really saying NO to something?

There can be a subtle implication that all we need do is change our vibration and our lives will change, and while I fully believe that, don’t we also need to make an actual choice to walk away, to take that actual physical action (and not just ‘act’ in the mind?)

(Sorry this is so long…)

Many thanks!

…

Right after posting my question below, I thought of another. What are your thoughts on when we have ‘history’ with another person? And therefore, we may not really be able to objectively discern the truth of what is going on?

With regards to the situation I describe below, my sister and brother-in-law have done some truly awful things to me in the past. To be fair, things are much better than they used to be… but I still think they are horrible people, and I need to always be on my guard.

Without going into the details of the latest incident, if I were to describe it, many people would, I think, say, ‘it’s not that bad.’ And in all honesty.. maybe it isn’t ‘that bad,’ but to me, it feels terrible because it is like a triggering reminder that they are still continuing with the same fundamental bullying dynamic, even if it isn’t as dramatic as it used to be.

The point is, one thing that stops me from really saying no to them, from really walking away (whether literally or mentally), is the fear of being accused of exaggerating. Maybe they are just very flawed, insecure people who are not intending to be abusive, but who don’t know any different? I get very confused when people advocate being loving, or querying whether I am influenced too much by the past.

Again, I suspect the standard answer to this would be for me to ‘speak my truth in love,’ which is obviously very important. However, I always feel that this approach implies that the ‘loving’ thing to do is to stay in the situation and – again – ‘change your vibration.’ Whereas actually, this nasty behaviour has been going on now for many years….

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TB 51: Can I save the relationship or should I let him go?

May 31, 2021 By Scott Gilbert Leave a Comment

What should you do about a deteriorating relationship? Do you try to save it or do you let it go? In this episode we dive into love-interest relationships and the role the law of attraction plays between both partners. Press the play icon above.

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Can I save the relationship or should I let him go?

Welcome to the Think Blissful blog and podcast, where we simplify the law of attraction!
Today we address a question from a listener about what to do about a deteriorating relationship.
This question came in from Mays.
I’m going to read her letter in full so you have complete context.
I’ll then address each part of her letter as it applies to the law of attraction.
Please note that I made some minor grammatical edits to her letter for clarity.
Here is Mays’ letter…

Breakup and Heartache

Hi Scott,

I have been in a four-year relationship. We have been living together for 3 years. I got pregnant and had a miscarriage. We were very close and connected up until the miscarriage. [Even then] our love grew stronger and we connected even more post miscarriage, until I had to tend to my sister who was in depression because of her separation with her husband. I was very fragile and lost sight of what I wanted and needed. I began to question our relationship.

I was [now] 5 years older, and have been working for 10 years, [and] he has yet to finish his thesis to start working. We were able to live a comfortable life together. We got through the tough time and he began focusing on finishing off his doctorate thesis. In the meantime, we disconnected. I didn’t feel like I was priority to him and we didn’t work at the relationship. We kept waiting for his defense to deal with us and work through our issues.

I have had many questions in my head wondering if we are a good team and if we can be happy together because it didn’t seem like we were building a life together.

He finished his thesis this past November. We tried to reconnect but of course that takes time. I am afraid that we let it go for too long. We are easily irritated by each other. We get in some small arguments or have miscommunication.

I love him and I believe he does [love me] too, but I am afraid it might not be enough. I feel him distanced.

We reevaluated our relationship in March. I want to work through our issues and stay together and his doubts seem too big to work through any issues. Two days, he said that he’s not able to commit to me with the doubts he has. He’s not certain that we can reconnect.

I am devastated and heartbroken. I am sad that he has arrived to that place and that we can’t work it out.

I was wondering if you could guide me in how to move on and let him go. I am struggling to accept that.

I am afraid that my thoughts and vibrations broke us up and led him to give up on us. What can I do? Can I still save the relationship or should I just let him go? How can I let him go?

Thank you for reading me! I really enjoy your podcast!

In the audio version of this episode, I go into detail that regarding each part of her letter and how the law of attraction fits in.
Please listen to the podcast for the complete discussion – I don’t have a proper transcription.

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TB 45: Toxic Relationships and the Law of Attraction

June 13, 2020 By Scott Gilbert 4 Comments

If you’re in a toxic or abusive relationship and you’re not sure how the law of attraction applies, you’ll want to pay attention to this episode. We dive into how we attract what we get, how to determine what we are attracting, and how to change it to attract joyous relationships. Press the play icon above.

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Toxic Relationships and the Law of Attraction

Welcome to the Think Blissful blog and podcast, where we simplify the law of attraction!
Today we are going to talk about relationships, it’s a subject that so many people are struggling with.
Before we get started, just note that I’m not providing a proper transcription of this podcast here in the show notes, so please listen to the podcast.
Once again I am recording in quarantine without my studio equipment because I’m still over 1,000 miles from home, so please bear with me as the recording quality may not be ideal
I received an email from Jill, a listener who is experiencing an abusive relationship. She is in her second consecutive abusive relationship, in spite of her efforts to express gratitude and to get into alignment.
Here is her letter…

Law of Attraction question

Hello!

For starters, I would like to thank you for continuing your podcast. I have been listening to it for several months now and have really gotten a lot out of the information you present.

My question is about relationships that we attract.

I went back and was listening to one of your podcasts from about a year ago, TB 28. A woman had written you a letter about her complicated relationship, and you told her that she was “in a situation that wouldn’t exist if she was in alignment.” I am trying to apply that to my current situation.

I was in a marriage several years ago that was abusive. I sustained a permanent injury to my eye from my ex-husband’s temper. It was a relationship that lasted over a decade until I finally left. I stayed for so long because we had a child together and I kept hoping things would improve. I won’t get into to many details about it, but after I left him I ended up working a lot on myself and finally moving towards my life goal of becoming a nurse.

I felt that I was finally in alignment with myself, and I started dating someone who had already been a great friend. He seemed perfect and we were both excited to make a beautiful and peaceful life together. He is ex-military and had been through two wars, and I had been through a lot with my marriage. We were both so happy to have one another to make a life with. We ended up having a baby, and he started becoming a totally different person when I got pregnant, much like my ex-husband. He wanted me to get an abortion (after telling me for months that he wanted a baby with me), and then wanted me to put my baby up for adoption. I could never do either of those things, so I told him I would raise her alone and never tell anyone he was the father and never ask for child support. However, he feared I would tell her he was the father, so he ended up staying in our lives. He would then threaten to take her away from me and raise her with his parents. He really put me through the ringer.

Anyhow, we are still together and our daughter is 2. Our relationship is not good after he changed so much (really he just showed what he was hiding, as I found out he treated his ex similarly). I also found out that he had been cheating on me the entire relationship, all the while making plans for marriage and a baby. I had never feared that he would cheat or hurt me, so I am wondering if I did something to manifest his cheating and emotional treatment of me? I am especially concerned about this since I have gotten myself into two severely bad relationships in a row.

I am an easy going person, and have done a lot of work on myself. I’m not hard on others and don’t have unrealistic expectations. In fact, my expectations are minimal and I know this is probably part of the problem.

I have sought counseling for years and feel that I have truly addressed any issues from childhood. I am loving and empathetic, and supportive of other people’s goals, so I am not sure why I keep attracting relationships like this. I am always grateful for what I do have, so do you have any insight?

I do feel stuck in this relationship now because we have a toddler and I have already gone through one custody battle with my ex. I can’t imagine doing it again at this point. I don’t trust my boyfriend anymore, because when I fully trusted him and thought he was an amazing man, he was lying to me the whole time. So I know when I’m happy and trusting of him that seems to have no effect on how he treats me.

Sorry, this is a lot in one email. I guess my big question again is, what do you think I am doing to keep attracting this? I do feel that I am constantly thinking about gratitude and getting in/staying in alignment. I never would have expected this in either situation. Am I causing the abuse somehow?

Thank you for all that you are doing.

Best,

Jill (you can use my first name if you want, although this is a pretty dark email so I don’t know that you’d want to share it with others!)

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Questions, Comments?

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TB 34: How To Manifest Love With Special Guest Alice of Alicett.com

October 18, 2019 By Scott Gilbert Leave a Comment

Special guest Alice of Alicett.com helps you manifest love. If your perfect mate seems to always elude you, you’ll want to listen to this episode. Learn to identify and remove the blocks which are causing resistance, keeping you in a never-ending loop. Press the play icon above.

If you have a question, leave a comment below and let’s get it answered quickly. If you found this episode helpful, please help out by sharing it. It would mean so much to me. Thank you.

Show Notes

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How To Manifest Love With Special Guest Alice of Alicett.com

I’m pleased to have a very special guest today!
Alice is an authority on manifestation, particularly manifesting love.
With over 3,000 clients she has helped a lot of people clear blocks and get into alignment.
She shares ways to identify what your blocks are and shares things you can do today to begin your transformation.
She also discusses the benefits of meditation and how you can get started.
Although I have not discussed meditation in my podcasts prior to today, I meditate every day and highly recommend it. You’ll hear my story getting started with meditation in this episode too.
To reach Alice, go to her website at https://alicett.com/
She also has a free guided meditation that you can download at https://alicett.com/free-meditation/ or https://thinkblissful.com/alice
Please listen to the episode. There’s way more content there than I can fit here!

Questions, Comments?

Oh, and I finally caught up returning all emails that you all sent. Thanks for all the questions. Keep them coming… I answer all emails personally.
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Cheers!
Scott

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