TB 30: How To Let Go Of People Without Hurting Them

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Relationships can be hard enough, but what about ending a relationship? How can you let it go without hurting the other person? In this episode we discuss what is really going on and how to move on in a way that is best for both of you. Press the play icon above.

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Show Notes

Here is an outline of what you can expect from this podcast episode. Listen to the podcast if you can, as I go into more detail which will help you.

How To Let Go Of People Without Hurting Them

Today we have a question from a listener. She actually sent in 4 questions, and I asked her to choose one because they are different topics. I asked her to choose the topic that matters most to her right now.
Her question is about ending a relationship, and how to let go of someone without hurting them.
This is an important topic because we all go through this at some point, and we handle it has a powerful effect on actually ending the relationship and on the next one we attract.
I am going to read her letter and then address it part by part.
I have modified it slightly for clarity, the meaning has not been changed.
Here we go…

Hi Scott,

Thank you so much for responding.

You are so very clear with conveying your ideas, and they very much resonate with me.

I think the topic of bringing in more money would be the most fun. I am doing pretty well with the others except for the last topic. Ugh. Maybe that’s the one we should talk about. I’m in a 4 year relationship. I’m no longer attracted to him. He’s now retired. Not exercising. Not productive in my opinion.

I’m 7 years younger [and] very active. I work very hard to maintain my home and property. He’s now living with me until he finds a house. He is not currently actively looking! Not paying me any money but [he’s] trying to help around house – but not very much. He has plenty of money and spends at least an hour a day looking at his investment portfolio.

Any insight would be appreciated. In the meantime I will listen again to your podcasts. It’s helpful to me to reinforce these ideas.

Thank you!
-J

As you are listening, you may already have feelings about this
Some of you may feel frustration for her, and others may relate to this same situation
This is not a healthy situation as it stands
I’m going to tell you why, and what can be done about it
Let’s go through this piece by piece

Hi Scott,

Thank you so much for responding.

You are so very clear with conveying your ideas, and they very much resonate with me.

Thank you… you are why I am doing this!

I think the topic of bringing in more money would be the most fun. I am doing pretty well with the others except for the last topic. Ugh. Maybe that’s the one we should talk about.

Since you haven’t seen all of her questions, I’ll state that her last topic is “How to let go of people without hurting them (outgrowing a relationship)”

I’m in a 4 year relationship. I’m no longer attracted to him. He’s now retired. Not exercising. Not productive in my opinion.

What are you feeling? I am sensing disappointment, even some frustration.
You are attracting more of what you are feeling, which is an indication of your point of attraction.

The law of attraction brings the essence of what you radiate… what you vibrate.
When you decide you want something, and you believe it, you will begin to see evidence of manifestation quickly.
Why am I telling you this?
- Because your ex has not made a decision to find a house – if he did, that house will come to him – and you will see and feel the results in motion.
- I am also telling you this because you have not made the decision to move on. If you did, he would not be in your house. You may argue that point and tell me that you did make the decision to move on, but I am telling you that you are still in the pondering mode. When a decision is made, the law of attraction will bring you the results.
Making a true decision can be the hardest part of manifesting deliberately.
You are allowing him, you are enabling him.
You are both suffering as a result (yes, him too).

Any insight would be appreciated. In the meantime I will listen again to your podcasts. It’s helpful to me to reinforce these ideas.

Thank you!

Now here’s the kicker… if you do not end this properly, your vibration will bring to you another relationship just like this one. How many people do you know who complained about their relationship for years, and when they finally break up, they’re complaining about the new relationship too. Different faces, different places, same vibration, same problems. Make sense?
You have to change your vibration to change the next relationship the law of attraction brings to you.
You have to find a way to take charge, get happy in your own confidence, and watch the changes take place.
When you remain in an unhappy relationship with another person, you are only delaying happiness for the both of you.
And yes, even though you are “broken up”, you are still in this relationship whether you realize it or not.

Your Question

So to answer your question “how to let go of another person without hurting them” is to focus on your own well-being.
It is important to understand that you are hurting them more by delaying the inevitable, and by doing so, you are hurting yourself.
Take care of yourself, get into alignment, and the law of attraction will bring you your desires.
It is not your responsibility to take care of him, he’s got his own vibration going on.
When you are powerfully focused on your desire, the law of attraction will remove him from your experience because you will no longer be vibrating on the same frequency as he is.

Questions, Comments?

Thank you, thank you, thank you for your questions!
Please keep those questions coming!
If you have questions or comments, you can post them below or you can contact me using the contact form here
I appreciate that you are listening!
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