If you’re in a toxic or abusive relationship and you’re not sure how the law of attraction applies, you’ll want to pay attention to this episode. We dive into how we attract what we get, how to determine what we are attracting, and how to change it to attract joyous relationships. Press the play icon above.
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Toxic Relationships and the Law of Attraction
- Welcome to the Think Blissful blog and podcast, where we simplify the law of attraction!
- Today we are going to talk about relationships, it’s a subject that so many people are struggling with.
- Before we get started, just note that I’m not providing a proper transcription of this podcast here in the show notes, so please listen to the podcast.
- Once again I am recording in quarantine without my studio equipment because I’m still over 1,000 miles from home, so please bear with me as the recording quality may not be ideal
- I received an email from Jill, a listener who is experiencing an abusive relationship. She is in her second consecutive abusive relationship, in spite of her efforts to express gratitude and to get into alignment.
- Here is her letter…
Law of Attraction question
Hello!
For starters, I would like to thank you for continuing your podcast. I have been listening to it for several months now and have really gotten a lot out of the information you present.
My question is about relationships that we attract.
I went back and was listening to one of your podcasts from about a year ago, TB 28. A woman had written you a letter about her complicated relationship, and you told her that she was “in a situation that wouldn’t exist if she was in alignment.” I am trying to apply that to my current situation.
I was in a marriage several years ago that was abusive. I sustained a permanent injury to my eye from my ex-husband’s temper. It was a relationship that lasted over a decade until I finally left. I stayed for so long because we had a child together and I kept hoping things would improve. I won’t get into to many details about it, but after I left him I ended up working a lot on myself and finally moving towards my life goal of becoming a nurse.
I felt that I was finally in alignment with myself, and I started dating someone who had already been a great friend. He seemed perfect and we were both excited to make a beautiful and peaceful life together. He is ex-military and had been through two wars, and I had been through a lot with my marriage. We were both so happy to have one another to make a life with. We ended up having a baby, and he started becoming a totally different person when I got pregnant, much like my ex-husband. He wanted me to get an abortion (after telling me for months that he wanted a baby with me), and then wanted me to put my baby up for adoption. I could never do either of those things, so I told him I would raise her alone and never tell anyone he was the father and never ask for child support. However, he feared I would tell her he was the father, so he ended up staying in our lives. He would then threaten to take her away from me and raise her with his parents. He really put me through the ringer.
Anyhow, we are still together and our daughter is 2. Our relationship is not good after he changed so much (really he just showed what he was hiding, as I found out he treated his ex similarly). I also found out that he had been cheating on me the entire relationship, all the while making plans for marriage and a baby. I had never feared that he would cheat or hurt me, so I am wondering if I did something to manifest his cheating and emotional treatment of me? I am especially concerned about this since I have gotten myself into two severely bad relationships in a row.
I am an easy going person, and have done a lot of work on myself. I’m not hard on others and don’t have unrealistic expectations. In fact, my expectations are minimal and I know this is probably part of the problem.
I have sought counseling for years and feel that I have truly addressed any issues from childhood. I am loving and empathetic, and supportive of other people’s goals, so I am not sure why I keep attracting relationships like this. I am always grateful for what I do have, so do you have any insight?
I do feel stuck in this relationship now because we have a toddler and I have already gone through one custody battle with my ex. I can’t imagine doing it again at this point. I don’t trust my boyfriend anymore, because when I fully trusted him and thought he was an amazing man, he was lying to me the whole time. So I know when I’m happy and trusting of him that seems to have no effect on how he treats me.
Sorry, this is a lot in one email. I guess my big question again is, what do you think I am doing to keep attracting this? I do feel that I am constantly thinking about gratitude and getting in/staying in alignment. I never would have expected this in either situation. Am I causing the abuse somehow?
Thank you for all that you are doing.
Best,
Jill (you can use my first name if you want, although this is a pretty dark email so I don’t know that you’d want to share it with others!)
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Questions, Comments?
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Thank you for this podcast. I found it by googling Law of Attraction + toxic relationships. I am in a different situation than Jill, my ‘toxic’ situation has more to do with my family of origin (elderly Dad, bullying older sister). As I have been grappling with my own situation, I have realised that part of my confusion has been around the messaging of some spiritual teachers, including some LoA ideas that by counteracting ‘negative thoughts’ about others with positive affirmations, we can literally change the energy of our situation. I have had some success with this. At one point,… Read more »
Your question has been answered as a podcast episode (#54). Check it out here.
Right after posting my question below, I thought of another. What are your thoughts on when we have ‘history’ with another person? And therefore, we may not really be able to objectively discern the truth of what is going on? With regards to the situation I describe below, my sister and brother-in-law have done some truly awful things to me in the past. To be fair, things are much better than they used to be… but I still think they are horrible people, and I need to always be on my guard. Without going into the details of the latest… Read more »
With your question above, I answered this as podcast episode #54. You can listen here. Hope it’s helpful 🙂